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--COOL INFORMATIONAL ARTICLES--
Bisexual section of PlanetOut.com:
Do Bisexual Men really exist?:
I think I might be Bisexual, Now what
do I do?:
General qusetions about being bisexual:
Bisexuals show increased visibility:
Sat Jun 23, 2007 6:43 am (PST)
I'm marching because I'm scared.
I'm scared because
people still feel that serial monogamy is better
than polyamory.
I am scared because there are so many people in
the LGBT community
that are at each others throats.
I'm scared because I was only 4 blocks away when Kevin Aviance
was
attacked and if I have went west instead of east I might have saved
him.
I'm scared because the general
populace believes that bisexuality is
a phase, be they straight or gay.
I'm scared because there are some gay people
no . . . a lot of gay
people that are either ashamed or disgusted by effeminate men.
I'm scared because there is
a young tranny that is taking street
hormones or even worse.. staring at themselves crying with scissors
in their
hands cutting off something other than their hair.
I'm scared because people forget that FTM transgendered people need
love too, *hugs to Villian and Kyle*
I'm scared because so many people in the LGBT community hate on drag
queens.
They are true warriors of our community. They get up on stage
and help us forget the outside. From Lady Bunny to Peppermint
Gummybear and from Mo B. Dick to Murray Hill I thank you so much and
to Kevin Aviance I'll do what I can to make sure
that you or anyone
else goes thru what you did ever again.
I'm scared because I actually stole something in the
military in
ordered to get discharged because I was afraid of what my brothers in
arms or my family would say if they
knew about me and I have been
living that lie ever since.
I am scared because this is my first time marching and
not seeing it
on the side-lines . . . . . where it's 'safe'.
I'm scared because even though we are marching for
our rights here in
New York City there are people that hear Stonewall and think a
confederate general and not the
sparks of freedom, that they have
never seen a pride flag or never felt pride in themselves.
I am scared because
most of my childhood and half of my teen years, I
thought I was confused. Now I know that I am bisexual and it's ok
regardless
of what others might think, say, preach or prescribe.
I'm scared because a single comic strip in my mid-teens was the
barrier between survival till pay-check and medication at bed-check,
(thanks so much, Allen, Glen, Nathan, Sky and
Soiree)
I am scared because I thought that I could never be in a committed
relationship without somehow at some
point in time cheat or
chronically mate n break, I didn't know there was a choice c.
I'm scared because there are
so many people that I love that I
haven't met yet that might be at the march. and due to bashers, the
religious reich
(not a typo I ASSURE YOU), and other factors this
could be my chance, my only and last chance to say hello and
hopefully
not good bye.
I'm scared because I am not the only one with the above thoughts.
I march because no one should
have to think like that.
I march for those who wish they could but are afraid.
I march for those whose only
viewing of a pride flag is in a magazine
hidden underneath their magazine which is hidden underneath their
mattress.
I
march to say 'thank you' to people Like Charles Nelson Riley, Rip
Taylor, Paul Lynde, Scott Thompson, Peter Paige, John
Inman, Wilson
Cruz and so many others that don't care about what people say about
them because they know they look
good. And helping me find the
strength to do the same. with my own stand-up comedy I will hopefully
spread the love
of those that are with us and for those who are up
there with God, that fat, black lesbian in the sky, margaritas for
us, I hope to do you proud.
I march because I don't want to be remembered for what I fight for,
but what I
fight for to be remembered.
I march because I shouldn't have to . . .
if you're in the NYC Tri-state area please
join me!
this Sunday June 24th - Section 11: Bi/Poly Groups line-up 1 pm on
54th Street btwn 6th & 7th in NYC
http://upcoming.yahoo.com/event/86126/
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This
wonderful LGBT Pride essay is X-Posted with permission from The
Dandy Man (http://www.myspace.com/funny_bi_nature_prod), NYC's own bi
stand-up comedian & MC extraordinaire.
Those of you who attended last
year's NYC's Poly Pride Picnic may remember him as your talented MC.
Bi Music Collectable
I have discovered this fledgling punk/pop band that are
being buzzed about a lot in NYC. They are called Royal Pink, and their lyrics are just about as bi as they get (like, REALLY).
You can also listen on their MySpace page, and they have a new EP out so you can even snag the tracks for your very own bi
music collection: http://www.myspace.com/royalpinkrocks
"How to spell the word bisexual":
Bi Lines On Line; The Electronic Newsletter of
Richmond Bisexual Network (ROBIN)
Mining Outfest for Bi Films
Summer Wedding Movies
The future world will be Bisexual
Bisexual Podcasts
A very personal podcast done for almost 2 years called
The Bruiser Chronicles
<http://prideave.com/bruiserchronicles> . The latest project is called BiDENTIFICATION
<http://www.bidentification.com> , a bisexual blog and podcast which is
just simple discussion
on a variety of topics from the bisexual
perspective of two bisexual friends, Gina and John. Discusses everything from
movies and tv, to masturbation, sex, male
orgasms, and female ejaculation.
Bisexual Virgins
Polyamory in Redbook, now online
Daily Kos: State of the Nation
Committed to Polyamory
Bisexual LiveJournal Blog
1e. Re: Delaware Councilman comes out as bi
Posted by: "Thomas Leavitt" thomleavitt@gmail.com thomas_leavitt
Date: Fri
Feb 13, 2009 11:20 pm ((PST))
Well, this is a yes and no issue... there are plenty of people who
legitimately
self-identify as gay, lesbian, or straight, who have had
(even continue to have) same-sex sexual encounters. It's no one's
business
to tell someone how to identify.
On the other hand, there's a legitimate point to be argued that there
are a lot
of people out there who seem to be deliberately avoiding the
bisexual label, very specifically within the queer community,
and not
for reasons related to the gender-binary paradigm. That's a separate
and distinct issue from the much larger
(at least that's my sense)
group of folks in the "straight" community who are totally in the
closet about their same-sex
attractions.
We need to be able to respect where people are at, while working to
remove lingering stigmas associated
with bisexuality, and making the
case without personalizing it that there seem to be an awful lot of
folks who've been
in relationships whose membership lands all over on
the map, gender wise (it's not just a binary, not just a
two-dimensional
spectrum, but a multi-dimensional array).
We need to create safe spaces for people to come out as "bisexual",
and
we especially need to create safe and supportive structures for
people to "come out" a second time as "bisexual", who've
previously
identified as "gay" or "lesbian", because that often involves a
duplication and reliving of the original
traumas and loss of social
context and support networks that folks went through the first time
around.
We also
need to acknowledge that some people (and I don't think we
really know how many) come out as "bisexual", on the way to
a "gay" or
"lesbian" identity, and that this is fine, but isn't representative of
the experience of the majority of
people who identify as bi, and have
for many years.
I'm not sure how to phrase this to avoid potentially inducing
a
defensive reaction among allies... but, fundamentally, I don't see
that the mainline GL(BT) organizations, or even
the reasonably clueful
ones (like NGLTF) are ever going to be comfortable arguing that there
are people in the GL community
who are really bisexual, but in the
closet about it, and need support to "come out". ... and what we
really want, anyway,
is an organization whose institutional mission is
to support the coming out process of both "queer-identified" and
"straight-identified"
bisexuals. I can't see a GL(BT) organization
really stretching itself to reach out to str8 identified folks and
asking
them to come out as bisexual or be supportive of them having a
straight identity while exercising same-sex attractions,
and seeing
their mission as serving these folks as well. If the leadership of
these organizations doesn't identify as
bisexual, can they really
understand what's needed? Can we take folks whose entire identity is
built on the group dynamic
of exclusion, and expect them to fuzz up
those very boundaries?
At an abstract level, you'd think that substantially
expanding the
queer community's boundaries would be beneficial to the entire GLBT
community, and the organizations supported
by it, but that's a real
leap in a certain way. I can't help but think that a large portion of
the GL community would react violently negatively to the idea that
there are even a significant
minority of closeted bisexuals in their
ranks, would see it as an attack on their integrity and authenticity
and an
attempt to argue that their identity is invalid, etc. We don't
face that issue with str8 identified bisexuals, just a whole
host of
other issues that fall under the general rubric of homophobia, and
then maybe a smaller set of issues around
figuring out where the
sexual acts and sexual identities merge and don't merge and how to
deal with inherently high
levels of fuzziness of identity.
I don't know... somehow, we have to get to the point where the level
of sensitivity
around sexual identity isn't so high, so that it is
totally o.k. to simply be bisexual, or for someone to point out that,
hey,
maybe you're not straight or not gay, you're bi, without it being
such a loaded thing...
See, ultimately, I think
this is the central, defining rational for
bi-specific organizations. I think GL(BT) organizations, no matter how
hard
they try, are just never going to be able to let go of the "us" /
"them", black and white, straight and gay binary paradigms.
I think
there's a lot of research around group dynamics that supports such an
expectation.
... and, unfortunately,
that's one of the core issues we face as well:
we have a mandate for inclusion and diversity, but the central,
defining
act of group creation is drawing boundaries and excluding
folks.
Thomas
1a. Re: Delaware Councilman comes out as bi
Posted by: "estraven53" estraven2@verizon.net estraven53
Date: Sat Feb 14,
2009 10:57 am ((PST))
Thomas, thank you very much for your thoughtful and thought-provoking
reply. When
our very existance is mocked, or or self-identifying as
bi is held up as being weak or cowardly as in the comments on
Towleroad to Ezra, it is hard not to reply in kind in a harsh and
hurtful fashion. We know that it actually takes
MORE courage to self-
identify as bi than either gay or straight, so the invalidation of
those comments is staggering.
I
am a therapist, and I still remember a client in my early days who
told me "when you attack my defenses, you make them
stronger." When
we attack someone's self-identification as straight or gay, we just
make them hate us and make the
defenses stronger. Bi/pansexuality is
the capacity to be sexually aroused by and/or fall in love with any
gender.
We know that; but if someone fits that definition but needs
to identify as being not bi/pansexual we can't FORCE them
to change
their minds. Miss Bliss did a wonderful post on her blog as to why it
is problematic, which I will cross-post
next.
Marsha Linehan's Dialectical Behavior Therapy talks about the first
step to change being radical acceptance.
Things are the way you
describe them, but they also need to change (the dialectic). I think
a lot of bisexuals who
self-describe as gay or Lesbian do so because
there is a large gay and Lesbian community that they enjoy being part
of,
which will exclude them if they begin to openly identify as bi.
The more we build the bi community, which every single
person reading
this is doing, and get the word out that now, for the first time in
human history, there IS a bi community,
the safer they will feel to
come out a second time as you said. The more out bi's there are,
there more the LGT's
will see we exist, and are not like the negative
stereotypes. And a positive upward spiral will happen ....
2b. Re: Our dear Miss Bliss
Posted by: "Thomas Leavitt" thomleavitt@gmail.com thomas_leavitt
Date: Sat Feb 14, 2009 5:52 pm ((PST))
I wrote
about bisexual community in Robyn Och's "Getting Bi"
compilation a few years back. Unfortunately, the book got buried when
I
recently moved my office, and I can't find it at the moment, so I
can't quote from that... but: in essence, my (rare) experience
has
been that entering a "bisexual space" is profoundly liberating... it
is like having a burden suddenly lifted from
your shoulders that you
never knew was even there. Suddenly, for once, you're free to be
yourself, to reach out and
hug, and kiss, and show affection to your
friends, current and former lovers, without the fear of provoking an
awkward
moment, that startled and (hopefully) instantly repressed
moment of discomfort that reveals your family, friends or associates,
at
some level, aren't totally comfortable with who you are and who you
love or have loved. You're free to look around and
go, "oh, he's
gorgeous", or "she's stunning", without wondering whether the person
in question would have an existential
freak out at being considered in
that fashion by someone of the wrong gender.
Even in the most accepting and tolerant
of company, queer or str8
alike, the issue of my bisexuality, my difference, the alien nature of
my perspective from
that of the monosexual, is always there, hovering
in the background of my consciousness... do they really accept me for
who
I am? You're never in a place where you look around, and think,
whoa, "I'm normal here."
I think it is the great
tragedy of our community, that we've been so
unsuccessful, over time, for whatever reason, at building sustainable
and
lasting national institutions and local community organizations.
I'm casting no blame here, our community is full of heroes
and
heroines who've made tremendous sacrifices, and done amazing things to
further the movement towards inclusion and
awareness, and to hold our
purported allies accountable when they've failed to live up to their
commitments. I don't
want to belittle, in any way shape or fashion,
the work of so many people I love and respect, who I look up to as
mentors,
etc. I'm pretty sure many of them are as baffled as I am by
our lack of success in these areas.
There are successes
we can point to, but at the same time, there are
some essential facts: is there one paid full time staff member of a
bisexual
specific organization in the United States? Not that I know
of. BiNet USA is our most prominent national organization...
and how
much funding does it have? How much funding does AIB have? You can go
to the BiNet USA blog, and the list of
links on the right hand side
contains the vast bulk of the formally organized activities of the
entire bisexual community.
I
sat in a meeting a couple of days ago, and heard a women say,
"Raising $100,000 is nothing. I can do that any time it is
needed."
While the person in question is quite an accomplished individual, she
is still only the head of the local board
of education, one among
hundreds in the state, and less influential than probably several
thousand other elected officials
in the state alone, let alone
nationally. Is there a single individual in our community, who if they
were determined,
could be that casually confident about raising that
much for a bisexual cause?
Somewhere, somehow, up to this point,
it cannot be denied that we've
failed the most fundamental tests of building community and community
power, and have
yet to hit upon the right formula. This, despite over
thirty years worth of effort. ... and yet, I'm sure each and everyone
of
us has had the experience I mentioned above, of being in "bisexual
space", and suddenly realizing what we've been missing
for so long,
that sense of wholeness, of rightness, of safety and comfort, that we
can get literally no where else.
Thomas
Young adults 'don't want to be defined by
gender, orientation'
By Sharon Jayson, USA TODAY
From USA Today - April 19, 2009
CHICAGO —
Sexual orientation and sexual labels. Gender crossing and
gender bending. These aren't X-rated or adults-only topics but
rather
subjects that young people talk about as they figure out where they
fit in, said a panel of experts at a weekend
conference of the Council
on Contemporary Families here.
"Youth are saying they don't want to be defined by gender
or
orientation," Chicago psychologist Braden Berkey told those attending
a panel on "Gender in the Next Generation"
on the final day of the
conference Saturday.
Berkey is founding director of the Sexual Orientation and Gender
Institute
at the Center on Halsted, which opened in 2007 to offer
support services and programming for the area's lesbian, gay, bisexual
and
transgender community. He talked about the evolution of sexual and
gender labels and how young people today are trying
to dissolve them.
He says the terms created in the early days, such as lesbian, gay,
bisexual and transgender, are giving
way to other descriptions, such
as polygender or multisex. Young people, he says, reject narrow gender
definitions and
say they don't want to be defined by their sexuality.
However, a presentation by sociologist Barbara Risman of the
University
of Illinois at Chicago suggested that for the
middle-schoolers she's studied, attitudes about sexual orientation are
less
open-minded, especially for boys. She says these boys fear the
label "gay."
Among boys, "homophobia in middle school
is used to police gender," she says.
In-depth interviews with 43 students at an urban middle school in the
Southeast
found vast differences between the sexes.
"Today, girls are free to do sports and be competitive. No one thought
they
had to play dumb to get a boyfriend. The women's movement has
done great things for middle school girls," she says.
"It's
another story with boys. I feel like we're in a time warp. We
have not dealt with men and masculinity in a serious enough
way," she
says.
"Boys police each other. There's no room not to do anything not
traditionally masculine."
Risman
says it's important not to generalize the findings to most
American children, but she says the fact that boys are labeled
quickly
suggests that this is a developmental stage. The study, she adds, was
limited by many rules requiring parental
permission for contact with
minors.
Risman says it's the stigma of homosexuality that looms among young
boys.
Being emotional or caring too much about clothes or liking to
dance are reasons that boys give for describing someone as
"girlish,"
she says.
Berkey suggests that we're living in a "post-gay world" where gay
celebrities can hawk products
that traditionally have been marketed as
attractive to the opposite sex. He suggests that society has advanced
to the
point that companies don't worry about anti-gay bias when
seeking spokespeople for products. As examples, he mentioned
openly
gay actor Neil Patrick Harris as a spokesman for the traditionally
male Old Spice deodorant and lesbian talk
show host Ellen DeGeneres,
who is a spokeswoman for Cover Girl cosmetics.
Find this article at:
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2009-04-19-family-conference_N.htm
How Male Bisexuality Got Cool
This is a moving and thought-provoking YouTube video (minor obscenities
warning):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsbGgZzDuVw
<http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsbGgZzDuVw>
Thanks to Jackson Sheerer of Queer
Subversion for recommending this :)
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Sat Jun 16, 2007 4:29 pm (PST)
Thank God for the bi community. Below
are a series of comments on the one local LGBT list I am on. These were reponses to my complaint about a gay/lesbian career
survey that was posted to our list that specifically prohibited bi and transgender people from responding. Granted, there
were only two people making these comments but boy were they nasty. And only one or two people even came to my defense. And
for months a bunch of us were all going out to weekly brunches--none of those people spoke up.
This reminds me of why
I avoided non-bi groups for so many years. It really saddens me that this is still so common. And these people dont at all
get the irony of them treating us like they have been treated by the straight world.
4 comments by 1st gay man (this
guy still lives at home with his wife and kids)
Sheela- Stop being so offended. The gay community is small enough.
Bi sexuals and transgendered are even smaller. I think it is unreasonable to be offended. And am sure that within the bisexual
group there are addtional subgroups. If I understand bisexuality correctly, you can go either way. Thus there can not be any
definitetive survey amongst bi's. So just let it be.
***
There are times that the all inclusiveness goes beyond rationality.
Sorry to say, I can not relate to transgender people, so though I may feel for them, the results of their survey is meaningless
in my sphere. Also I chose not to be bi- years ago, so your issues are also something I can not relate to. Am I correct in
assuming that the majority of the group is gay? not bi or trans? Have you done a survey?
***
I just have little or no
interest in trangendered or bi sexual causes
***
[The comment below about me being selfish was after I posted a
list of bi resources to the list to answer the charge that bis dont exist or there are too few of us to matter.]
You
are obviously a very angry and frustrated person. Also selfish. It's not always all about you. You should stop once in a while
and consider others. Am tired of your bi- sexuality being shoved down everyone's throat!
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2 comments by second gay man:
Frankly,
as a GAY man, I'm quite offended by the "community" lumping me in with
bisexuals (which I don't believe really exist anyway)
and transgendereds.
***
I am a member of the GAY COMMUNITY -- not the politically correct, alphabet soup,
acronym-of-the-era
artificial "LGBTXYZ" community. And as far as I'm concerned, BIs
need to just pick a side already ... this one foot in/one
foot out "orientation" doesn't serve
anyone, particularly your partner.
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In
case you're wondering, this is the original comment I posted:
I wrote to Raymond expressing my concerns about the fact
that he is deliberately ignoring bisexual and transgender people in this survey. In fact, on the first page it says "If you
identity yourself as bisexual or transgendered, please exit this survey" in bold letters. Interestingly, he doesnt add a similar
instruction to any of the other listed disqualifying factors such as being over 21 or not being self-employed.
I am
quite offended by this. There is no earthly reason why he couldnt collect statistics on all four groups.
***
My
other comments were:
You're not making much sense. There are plenty of subgroups in the gay and lesbian communities.
That didnt prevent him from including the whole G&L community in the survey. Would you tell a black, latino or asian person
it is unreasonable to be offended if a survey said "whites only?"
***
So you're saying that it's OK for a majority
to discriminate against a minority? If the majority doesnt "relate" to the minority? Isnt this exactly what the LGBT movement
is protesting--non-gay people feeling it is OK to ignore or discriminate against LGBT people because there are fewer
of us and more of them? Listen to yourself.
***
It amazes me that there is just as much predjudice and bigotry
inside of the
LGBT Community as there is outside of it. I thought that had changed by
now. If you had ever bothered
to educate yourself you would know that bi
people exist. I have been out as bi since I was 16, co-chaired the gay and
bisexual group on my college campus, where I was the only out queer girl at
my college, and am now 50.
Here
are some national bisexual websites with downloadable information
pamphlets, listings of bi groups all over the country
and the world (there
are over half a dozen bi groups in NYC alone), bi bookstores etc. Attached
is a list of over
250 Famous Bisexuals in History. For anyone who wishes to
educate themselves.
I recommend:
Bisexual Resource
Center for it's pamphlets on bisexuality (click on
publications) www.biresource.org
Bisexual.org for its local
bi group finder (click on Resources)
www.bisexual.org
BiNetUSA for its Bi Movement History Timeline and e-list
which combines
activism and discussion www.binetusa.org
Bi Magazine for bi culture www.bimagazine.org
Bi
Tribune for Bi Press www.bitribune.com
Bisexual.com for more articles and commentary www.bisexual.com
Bi Writers
Association for its bi writers community of over 150 members
www.biwriters.org
New York Area Bisexual Network
lists bisexual groups and events in NYC
www.nyabn.org
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Actually, my bisexuality was appreciated by all my
partners who were either
bi themselves or intrigued by me.
Sheela
Mon Jun 18, 2007 6:57 am (PST)
This was the latest. After this one,
one of the moderators finally said something. This was my experiment in joining non-bi groups and I am not encouraged. Sheela
(His
comment about being late is absurd, nobody waits-- they just eat and everybody shows up whenever they can.)
I know
what I am and am considerate of others unlike you. YOU always feel its always about you. This is coming from the person who
is always exceedingly late for the brunch and expecting everyone to wait an hour from you. Learn to consider others.
>
This poor guy wanted to do a survey and you attacked him, because as usual it had to be about you. If you want to include
all groups how bout the jewish gays, the jewish lesbians, the jewish bis, then the catholic contingent, then the born agains,
then the blacks, then the aisian
>
You see how rediculous you sound get over it Sheela, this was NOT for you. Start
to think about others feelings, act accordingly, then we will take you seriously
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dragongrahamviper@yahoo.com dragon644266415
Sat Aug 4, 2007 12:09 pm (PST)
I've made these two videos on homophobia
and just what "good" its
doing. To clear things up a bit, the first one is my very first video
I've ever made by myself.
Then the second one I've made is based off of
my frist one but in some cases, better. Hope you like them. And don't
hold
back the criticism. (hope I spelled that right =P)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WQUUC9-CLeMhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e7G4FecmwAM
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ABC News Commentary: Young Women
defy labels in intimacy with both sexes
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Is it Ok to be Bisexual?
This is an immensely bi-phobic article
for Campus Life's: Ignite your Faith issue June/July 2005.
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Looking for some more articles to
help refute stuff like this:
Posted by: "webmaster for the New York Area Bisexual " nyabn_webmaster@yahoo.com nyabn_webmaster
Date: Mon Jun 2, 2008 4:57 pm ((PDT))
"bi/pan
people don't NEED special representation in the political
world "
"Bi/pan people have all the political/legal rights
of heterosexuals
and don't need anything extra that homosexuals aren't also working
for"
"Bi/pansexuals who
are in a relationship that is perceived as
heterosexual already get the rights that straight couples get; the
gay
community is working on getting rights so that bi/pan people who
are in relationships NOT viewed as heterosexual"
Already have:
Bisexuality:
Politics and Community http://www.lorainehutchins.com/
bisex_pc.html
Why Would Lesbian & Gay Organizations Include Bisexuals? http://
web.archive.org/web/20070406084502/www.biresource.org/pamphlets/
gl_include.html
Biphobia, Biphobia: It Goes More than Two Ways and Bisexual
Etiquette: Helpful
Hints for Bisexuals Working With Lesbians and Gay
Men http://www.robynochs.com/writing/writing.html
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Dr. Darcy on dating a bi woman
Dr. Darcy answers the difficult questions
by Dr. Darcy Smith
September 4, 2008
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MTV's Bisexual Twins, Plus Dr. Drew and Andy Dick
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Michael Musto asks: "Are Bisexuals
Real?"
The totally tired and decidedly un-fabulous
Michael Musto a gossip columnist for the Village Voice has come out with a biphobic, anti-scientific column titled "Ever Meet
a Real Bisexual"?
http://blogs.villagevoice.com/dailymusto/archives/2009/04/ever_meet_a_rea.phpquestioning the legitimacy of bisexuality. In
it he says (among other things):
"Everyone always says they're bisexual, blabbing on and on about how "sexuality
is fluid, and I don't really like labels"--but usually I find these are just gay men who are afraid to come out. I know there
are real bisexuals out there--mainly because I've heard that there are--and I do think it's a lovely idea to actually crave
sex with people regardless of gender. I'm just wondering how real a phenomenon this is, as opposed to a smoke-and-mirrors
coverup designed to keep antsy gays in the closet.
Most of the guys I know who say they're bisexual end up doing Bette
Davis impersonations after a few drinks, and when you invite them to an all-girl bar, they get excited, thinking you mean
Splash. But do you know anyone who REALLY is equally attracted to both men and women and effortlessly glides between those
two dating pools without a second's thought or self-consciousness? If so, do you ever suspect they're full of shit?"
Suggesting
bisexuality is a phenomenon, or that bisexual men are closeted liars is offensive and outright wrong!
While
they (and others) may think they are being funny, cute and amusing not to mention raising the hit rate on their columns or
people may just chalk it up to "sibling rivalry" within the LGBT Community -- annoying but not to serious, in reality the
biphobic rants of Michael Musto, Dan Savage, et al. are just as toxic as Fred Phelps, James Dobson Focus on the Family and
their ilk are to the greater LGBT Community.
They give legitimacy to troubled souls of the kind we ALL know
too well, (such as the recent YouTube incidents) and help to incite hatred and violence against the bisexual/pansexual and
fluid community.
Take Action
Contact Michael Musto and tell him biphobia has no place in the Village
Voice
http://www.villagevoice.com/feedback/EmailAnEmployee?to=474635Contact GLAAD and ask them to please live up to their
mission to defend the LGBT Community against hate-mongering in the media
http://www.glaad.org/contact_new.phpand many thanks to the good people at Queers United
(http://queersunited.blogspot.com/) for noticing the article, knowing it was wrong and immediately
doing something about it
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